Taking Care of Yourself in the New Year

Headshot of Elliot Dorff
Headshot of Elliot Dorff
Rabbi Elliot Dorff, PhD

Sol & Anne Distinguished Professor in Philosophy, Ziegler School of Rabbinic Studies
University Rector, American Jewish University

Rabbi Elliot Dorff, PhD is AJU’s Rector and Sol & Anne Dorff Distinguished Service Professor in Philosophy. He is Chair of the Conservative Movement's Committee on Jewish Law and Standards and served on the editorial committee of Etz Hayim, the new Torah commentary for the Conservative Movement. He has chaired four scholarly organizations: the Academy of Jewish Philosophy, the Jewish Law Association, the Society of Jewish Ethics, and the Academy of Judaic, Christian, and Islamic Studies. He was elected Honorary President of the Jewish Law Association for the term of 2012-2016.  In Spring 1993, he served on the Ethics Committee of Hillary Rodham Clinton's Health Care Task Force. In March 1997 and May 1999, he testified on behalf of the Jewish tradition on the subjects of human cloning and stem cell research before the President's National Bioethics Advisory Commission. In 1999 and 2000 he was part of the Surgeon General’s commission to draft a Call to Action for Responsible Sexual Behavior; and from 2000 to 2002 he served on the National Human Resources Protections Advisory Commission, charged with reviewing and revising the federal guidelines for protecting human subjects in research projects. Rabbi Dorff is also a member of an advisory committee for the Smithsonian Museum of Natural History on the social, ethical, and religious implications of their exhibits. He is also a member of the Ethics Advisory Committee for the state of California on stem cell research.

He has been an officer of the FaithTrust Institute, a national organization that produces seminars and educational materials to help people avoid or extricate themselves from domestic violence.  For eight years he was also been a member of the Board of Directors of the Jewish Federation Council of Los Angeles, chairing its committee on serving the vulnerable.  In Los Angeles, he is a Past President of Jewish Family Services and a member of the Ethics committee at U.C.L.A. Medical Center. He serves as Co-Chair of the Priest-Rabbi Dialogue of the Los Angeles Archdiocese and the Board of Rabbis of Southern California.  

posted on January 1, 2020

Jews learn early in life that their Jewish heritage includes a strong focus on helping others.  The Torah has multiple laws that require us to take care of the poor (e.g., Leviticus 19:9-10; Deuteronomy 15:7-15), and the Rabbis expanded on that to require that every Jewish community establish a soup kitchen to feed the poor and a charity fund to supply them with clothing and shelter (Tosefta, Pe’ah 4;9).  Deuteronomy, the fifth book of the Torah, depicts God as caring for the widow, orphan, and stranger (10:18), and it bids us in several places to do so likewise (14:29; 16:11, 14; 24:19-21; 26:12-13; 27:19).  The Prophets therefore regularly chastise the Jewish community of their time for failing to provide for the poor, the orphan, and the widow (e.g., Isaiah 1:17, 23; 3:14-15; Jeremiah 7:6; 22:3; Zekhariah 7:10; etc.)  The Rabbis (Tosefta, Gittin 3:18; B. Gittin 61a) insisted that we help the non-Jewish poor and sick as well as Jews; this is truly remarkable because the non-Jews the Rabbis were talking about were the Romans of that time, who were definitely not worrying about Jews who were poor or ill.  The Rabbinic term for these acts of helping others is gemillut hasadim, acts of kindness, and a deservedly famous Mishnah (Avot 1:2) that many of us sing says that Torah (learning it and fulfilling its precepts),  worship, and acts of kindness are the three pillars on which the world stands.  The contemporary term that Jews often use for the same kinds of activity is tikkun olam, repairing the world, and although that is not the entirety of Judaism, it is a core value and focus of our tradition.  Sometimes the way that I describe this aspect of the Jewish tradition is to say that “Judaism spells responsibility with a capital R.”

Aside from parties on New Year’s Eve and parades and football games on the day itself, the one thing that characterizes the marking of the New Year in the American tradition is New Year’s resolutions.  The Jewish New Year celebration of Rosh Hashanah calls our attention to our relationships to other people and to God and bids us to evaluate how we have fared in those relationships, how we can make up for what we have done wrong, and how we can do better in the year to come.  New Year’s resolutions in the American setting, in contrast, focus on what we can and want to do for ourselves.  This year I will lose weight, or I will spend more time with my family, or at least on Shabbat I will liberate myself from my electronics.   Some even tie a string around their finger to remind them of their resolutions.

This does not violate the substance or spirit of Judaism in the least bit.  In fact, the Talmud (B. Bava Metzi’a 62a) asserts that in dire circumstances, one must save oneself first and only then seek to save others.  (This is very much like what you are told on airplanes: “First put the mask on yourself, and then help others.”)  In monetary matters as well, the Talmud (Bava Metzi’a 71a; B. Nedarim 80b) describes concentric circles: first one must support oneself, then one’s immediate family, then one’s extended family, then one’s local Jewish community, then the larger Jewish community, and then the non-Jewish community.  Of course, as Jews we must also care for others, and Jews of all forms of affiliation are right in seeing that as a core Jewish value.  You cannot help others, though, unless you yourself are in a position and condition to do so (a very important lesson for caregivers of sick or disabled people to learn).  So in looking after our own welfare as we make New Year’s resolutions we are carrying out an important Jewish value.  Now may we only fulfill our resolutions!

For more on this topic, see Elliot N. Dorff, The Way Into Tikkun Olam (Repairing the  World) (Woodstock, VT: Jewish Lights, 2005), especially Chapter 5, and see generally Elliot N. Dorff, Love Your Neighbor and Yourself: A Jewish Approach to Modern Personal Ethics (Philadelphia: Jewish Publication Society, 2003).