Caring for Oneself and Others

Headshot of Elliot Dorff
Headshot of Elliot Dorff
Rabbi Elliot Dorff, PhD

Sol & Anne Distinguished Professor in Philosophy, Ziegler School of Rabbinic Studies

University Rector, American Jewish University

Rabbi Elliot Dorff, PhD is AJU’s Rector and Sol & Anne Dorff Distinguished Service Professor in Philosophy. He is Chair of the Conservative Movement's Committee on Jewish Law and Standards and served on the editorial committee of Etz Hayim, the new Torah commentary for the Conservative Movement. He has chaired four scholarly organizations: the Academy of Jewish Philosophy, the Jewish Law Association, the Society of Jewish Ethics, and the Academy of Judaic, Christian, and Islamic Studies. He was elected Honorary President of the Jewish Law Association for the term of 2012-2016.  In Spring 1993, he served on the Ethics Committee of Hillary Rodham Clinton's Health Care Task Force. In March 1997 and May 1999, he testified on behalf of the Jewish tradition on the subjects of human cloning and stem cell research before the President's National Bioethics Advisory Commission. In 1999 and 2000 he was part of the Surgeon General’s commission to draft a Call to Action for Responsible Sexual Behavior; and from 2000 to 2002 he served on the National Human Resources Protections Advisory Commission, charged with reviewing and revising the federal guidelines for protecting human subjects in research projects. Rabbi Dorff is also a member of an advisory committee for the Smithsonian Museum of Natural History on the social, ethical, and religious implications of their exhibits. He is also a member of the Ethics Advisory Committee for the state of California on stem cell research.

He has been an officer of the FaithTrust Institute, a national organization that produces seminars and educational materials to help people avoid or extricate themselves from domestic violence.  For eight years he was also been a member of the Board of Directors of the Jewish Federation Council of Los Angeles, chairing its committee on serving the vulnerable.  In Los Angeles, he is a Past President of Jewish Family Services and a member of the Ethics committee at U.C.L.A. Medical Center. He serves as Co-Chair of the Priest-Rabbi Dialogue of the Los Angeles Archdiocese and the Board of Rabbis of Southern California.  

posted on May 16, 2009
Torah Reading
Haftarah Reading

"If your kinsman, being in straits, comes under your authority, and you hold him as though a resident alien, let him live by your side: do not exact from him advance or accrued interest, but fear your God. Let your brother live by your side." (Leviticus 25:35-36)

These sentences are the basis for Rabbi Akiva's ruling that if two men in a desert have enough water to keep only one of them alive, the possessor of the water may drink it all rather than share it and condemn both to die of thirst, for your brother can live by your side only if you yourself are alive (B. Bava Metzia 62a). This sets an important limit on our efforts to help others. We must first guarantee our own life and then that of our family before we reach out to help others.

This is not the lesson of Jewish tradition alone. I remember well what I was taught when training to become a water life saver in the American Red Cross course at Camp Ramah: "Throw, tow, row, go." That is, you should not immediately jump into the water to save someone who is drowning, for that method subjects you to the greatest degree of danger. Instead, you should first throw out to the person an inflated ring or something else that the person can use to help him or her float on the water while you contact others to help. If that is not possible, throw the person a rope so that you can tow him or her onto shore. (This is more dangerous than the first method because you might get pulled into the water while trying to pull the drowning person to dry land.) If that is not possible, row a boat out to the person to rescue him or her. Only as a last resort do you swim out to the person to try to save him or her.

So your life comes first. We dare not forget, however, that we also have a duty to rescue people at risk. Leviticus 19:16 states: "You shall not stand idly by the blood of your brother; I am the Lord." The Talmud understands this verse to require efforts to help someone in distress, such as a drowning person or someone accosted by highway robbers (B. Sanhedrin 73a). One surely may and should seek the help of others in the rescue attempt, and one should not endanger one's own life any more than necessary, but one has the duty to do what one can to save the life of someone else.

This stands in sharp contrast to American law and practice. The Common Law imposes no duty to rescue. In fact, until about fifteen years ago, if you tried to help someone in distress and something untoward happened to that person, you could be sued. Now virtually all states have passed "Good Samaritan" laws to protect a rescuer from being sued if the victim is harmed in the process of the attempted rescue. Only four states, however, impose a duty to intervene in the first place (namely, Minnesota, Rhode Island, Vermont, and Wisconsin), and failure to do so - or to call the police or other potential helpers - is a misdemeanor that results in minimal punishment (a fine of not more than $100 in Vermont). Probably the most egregious example of this American stance is the Kitty Genovese case on March 13, 1964, when, according to a New York Times article published two weeks later, 38 people in her Kew Gardens apartment complex heard her screams and did nothing to stop her rape and murder. The article is almost certainly inaccurate, but the incident came to symbolize "the bystander effect" and its attendant diffusion of responsibility. "I didn't want to get involved," the New York Times reporter heard from many of the neighbors he interviewed.

Jewish law demands that we get involved. And the duty to rescue today applies not only to people drowning or accosted by others. It applies to many of our friends and neighbors who have lost their job, their livelihood, and sometimes their homes as well. I serve as Co-Chair of the Los Angeles Federation's Task Force on Serving the Vulnerable. Los Angeles is clearly not alone in seeing the roles of the starving and the homeless multiply geometrically in the last twelve months. Some of the very people who used to contribute to Sova, the food pantry run by Jewish Family Service of Los Angeles, are now its clients. Jewish Vocational Service in Los Angeles now has a two-month waiting period for people seeking jobs to meet with a counselor; as a result, it has made available at its sites Parnassah Works, a software program that job seekers can use on their own while they wait for professionals to help them. Along with the loss of jobs comes not only food deprivation, but also loss of dignity and, all too often, family violence, as adults take out their frustrations on their children and each other. Thus mental health services are just as important as provisions for keeping life and limb together, for the former often has a direct link on the latter.

There is another, specifically Jewish aspect of rescue that is affecting us in our time. Many families who have been active participants in our synagogues, schools, youth groups, and camps no longer have the money to continue these important parts of their Jewish lives. All of these institutions critically need help in offering scholarships for the children and fee reductions for the adults who need them in order to continue their Jewish education and communal participation. Nothing less than the future of the Jewish tradition and the Jewish people is at stake.

In this economic environment, the Jewish tradition's duty to rescue is all the more compelling and urgent. We are not only giving people food, clothing, housing, and jobs when we provide those things; we are preserving their dignity and literally saving their lives. We are not only providing financial aid for those who need it to continue their Jewish lives; we are supporting the Jewish future. Yes, our own lives and those of our families come first, but in these times of economic distress we must reevaluate what we really need and then extend to others what they need to eat, sleep, work, and live - and, in the case of Jews, to live Jewishly.

In this situation, the concentric circles that the Jewish tradition mandates through this week's lesson that your own life comes first is absolutely critical in making our decisions of whom to help and how. We must first sustain the lives and Jewish participation of ourselves and our family; then of the local Jewish community; then of the larger Jewish community; and then of the non-Jewish community. The famous words of Hillel in Mishnah Avot (Ethics of the Fathers) 1:14 are perhaps more important in guiding us today than they ever have in the past:

If I am not for myself, who will be for me?

If I am for myself alone, what am I?

And if not now, when?

Shabbat Shalom.